“I might get kicked off the forum as some socialist tranny is probably in charge of policing it.”
“This is disgusting and needs to be outlawed as a Nazi crime.”
“Predators stalking the internet trying to convince young teens and adults that they need to alter themselves is socially unacceptable, unethical, immoral and inhumane and I am hoping one day, ILLEGAL.”
“we females have been told that ‘Furries’ are harmless.”
“#trans = #childsacrifice.”
This person helped Rep. Gary Click ban healthcare for trans people across Ohio.
Previously:
Content note: violent rhetoric, anti-trans slurs, and constant misgendering.
Last month, we anticipated that Ohio Governor Mike DeWine’s vaguely-worded proposal to regulate adult gender-affirming care could radically endanger the existing landscape of transition treatment in the state. In January, our suspicions were confirmed as those proposals took definite shape: the draft administrative rules would require six months of therapy for those under 21 before starting any gender-affirming medical treatment, and would require gender-affirming care providers to hire or contract with a psychiatrist and an endocrinologist to manage treatment; providers must also have their gender-affirming care plans approved by a medical ethicist (proposed rules 3701-3-17, 3701-59-07, 3701-83-61, 5122-14-12 and 5122-26-19).
Read more: Things you can do right now for Ohio by Jess Kant
The ACLU of Ohio described these restrictions as a “de facto ban on transgender care”, and providers have stated the rules would likely be insurmountable for all but the largest centers:
“It’s going to be very difficult,” Vaughn said. “At Equitas Health, we’re going to do everything we can to continue providing the same great care for people and we’re confident we’ll be able to do so. But for those smaller, like perhaps more rural primary care settings where it is maybe just a couple of nurse practitioners in a position, it’s going to be near impossible.”
Advocates have made clear that these administrative rules will result in adults losing access to their ongoing care:
“The rules as written seem tailor-made to eliminate care from smaller clinics, and leave standing larger hospital networks,” Cam Ogden, a member of Trans Allies of Ohio, told me this week. If these rules went into effect, Ogden said, “the clinic that I get my HRT from would not be able to meet these demands and would likely have to shut down their gender-affirming care provision.”
The governor’s office defended the rules’ psychiatric requirements by citing testimony from the Ohio Children’s Hospital Association – but the data provided by OCHA only included those under the age of 18, and the governor’s office did not explain why this would be applicable to the trans adult population:
DeWine’s press secretary, Dan Tierney, said the governor had determined counseling should be comprehensive because two-thirds of those who receive therapy for gender dysphoria do not go on with further treatment, according to data from the Ohio Children’s Hospital Association.
According to excerpts from the Ohio Senate Government Oversight Committee’s Dec. 6, 2023, legislative testimony, the association’s President and CEO Nick Lashutka said this data comprised 3,300 individuals under the age of 18.
Inquiries to Nick Lashutka regarding the details of this data have not been returned at the time of this writing. Meanwhile, the Ohio House and Senate proceeded to override the governor’s veto of H.B. 68 on January 24, leaving Ohioans with the worst of both worlds: a total statutory ban on gender-affirming care for trans youth, with onerous and disruptive administrative regulations of adult care as well.
Why is this happening?
This disturbing and alarming month reached a crescendo on January 26, as H.B. 68 sponsor Gary Click was recorded in a Twitter Space with several Ohio and Michigan legislators as they discussed “the endgame” of banning transition treatment for all ages (full audio).
Read more: Republicans Reveal Their Endgame in the Fight Over Trans Kids by Melissa Gira Grant
Click advised them to use a piecemeal approach and “take off a bite-sized portion of it”:
Click then relayed that he had been asked by reporters if he had any regrets that bans like his against gender affirming care for minors in Ohio also had the effect of closing down gender clinics that treated adults.
“No, I’m actually pretty happy about it,” he said. “I don’t think they ever printed what I said, but sometimes we just have to look at taking one bite at a time, doing it incrementally. When you put everything into one pot, it’s going to be harder for you to get any legislation across the finish line. So take off a bite-sized portion of it.”
During the Space, Click discussed the inspiration for his apparently endless campaign against our medical care, revealing part of the origin story of the prolific anti-trans healthcare group Society for Evidence-Based Gender Medicine: one of SEGM’s cofounders has a trans child.
GARY CLICK: So the thing you have to do is you have to know, first of all, in your gut that you’re right. And the way I started off in this was families that came to me. They were introduced to me by our family policy organization, which is CCV or Center for Christian Virtue. And they asked me to carry this bill, and they had tears in their eyes. Matter of fact, we- I met with them at the other end of the state down in Cincinnati, sat around the dinner table and talked to several of the families there.
They have a group called Cardinal Support Network. And I sat around the table, I heard their stories, I saw their tears, and I knew that this was the right thing to do. One of them- parents is a physician and he is also a founding member of SEGM, one of the charter members of SEGM which is the Society for Evidence-Based Gender Medicine, and him and his wife have a daughter that identifies as trans. And it’s very real to them. And they’ve guided me a lot along the way with just basic information.
Of the four male officers listed on SEGM Corp.’s first annual report – Roberto D’Angelo, William Malone, Stephen Beck, and Marcus Evans – only one is known to have a connection to the Cincinnati area: Dr. Stephen R. Beck, who has spent a decade working as a healthcare executive in Cincinnati and listed his location on two SEGM publications as “Cincinnati, OH” or “Mason, OH”. In a May 26, 2023 deposition of SEGM member Daniel Weiss (ECF 58-6, K.C. v. Individual Members), Weiss stated that “Dr. Beck” referred him to the Center for Christian Virtue to arrange his testimony in Ohio:
Q What prompted you to go to that hearing?
A It is a rather long story but I will make it brief. So I was contacted by a physician who is a member of the, of SEGM, Society for Evidence Based Gender Medicine. I had joined that group probably two or three years ago. He, that physician, is a member of that group and he is in Ohio. He said, hey, there’s this legislation coming up. Would you be willing to write testimony in support for it? And he got me in contact with an organization that was supporting the legislation.
Q Do you recall what that organization was that was supporting that?
A CCV, I think. Center for Christian Values or something like that. I think they changed their name. But it’s something along those lines.
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Q You said a doctor had reached out to connect to you from SEGM, the organization CCV, is that right?
A I misspoke. Okay. Right. The doctor who asked me about Ohio is Dr. Beck.
Q Who is Dr. Beck?
A He is actually one of the founding members of SEGM.
Further indicating that Click was referring to Dr. Beck in the Twitter Space, a nonbinary trans person named Stevie Beck (they/them) testified in November 2022 against Ohio H.B. 454, the previous session’s trans youth care ban (at 24 minutes).
Read more: Ohio’s Latest Anti-Trans Bill: Why We Should Fight Against HB454 and Protect Trans Youth by Stevie Beck
During their testimony, Stevie indicated that they were using their real name, while stating that their mother had previously testified in support of the bill under the false name “Maria Polaris”.
My name is Stevie Beck and I’m here to speak today in opposition of H.B. 454. This committee heard previously from my mother under the nickname “Maria Polaris” in the first spring proponent hearing, and it would be fair now if you heard the truth from me. I will be using my real name.
Stevie continued, explaining that they had no support from their family and developed PTSD as a result:
None of my therapists had experience with gender questioning youth, but they listened as I struggled to find any kind of familial support for my mental health, which declined upon realization that I was unable to be honest with my family about this. I would eventually be diagnosed with PTSD from their behavior towards me at home.
At the end of their testimony, Rep. Click confirmed that he had met and spoken with Stevie’s parents:
Stevie, it’s a pleasure to meet you. And as you know, I met your parents and talked to them and don’t really have any questions. The only thing I want to say to you is that your parents love you very much. And I’ve seen the tears in their eyes. And, and I believe you probably love them, too. And just my hope is, is that someday, regardless of what decisions you make or anything like that, that you and your parents can reconcile and talk through these things, because I will just tell you that their motivation is not hate. They don’t hate you, they love you, and they love you very dearly.
Who is Maria Polaris?
The second hearing of H.B. 454 on May 19, 2022 did feature testimony from “Maria Polaris”, who spoke as a proponent on behalf of the Cardinal Support Network mentioned by Click (beginning at 3:05:00):
I represent many, many parents, many, many mothers from Cardinal Support Network in Ohio. We’re in every town, in every big city in Ohio. And our biggest problem is we can’t find therapists who won’t affirm our kids that they’re born in the wrong body.
A week later, “Maria Polaris” submitted written testimony to the third hearing of H.B. 454, identifying herself as “Maria Polaris For Anonymous My Chart Mother”. The submitted PDF lists the file’s author as “Sharon Beck”.
On a then-public Facebook profile for “Shari Beck”, the profile changed its picture on July 11, 2020 to a photo of two individuals recognizable as Dr. Stephen Beck and “Maria Polaris”:
Compare with this photo of Dr. Stephen Beck from HIT Consultant:
On October 23, 2020, a Facebook profile for “Steve Beck” changed its picture to another photo clearly showing Stephen Beck and “Maria Polaris”:
As recently as December 20, 2022, the “Steve Beck” account added another profile photo of Beck and “Polaris”:
Family testimony, PDF metadata and social media posts all point to the same conclusion: “Maria Polaris” is Sharon Beck, wife of SEGM cofounder Stephen Beck, and they are parents of a trans child.
The true face of parental rejection
Sharon Beck has good reason to conceal her true identity: As “Maria Polaris” and a handful of other pseudonyms, Beck has left a years-long internet footprint in which she expresses apparently limitless antipathy for all aspects of transgender life. Even as Beck leads the anti-trans “parent support groups” Cardinal Support Network and Parents of ROGD Kids Ohio for parents of trans youth, her conduct suggests the real purpose of such groups is not to support cisgender parents, but to encourage them in imposing coercion and control against their trans family members at any cost.
Read: Understanding the Anti-Trans Parent Movement by Julia Serano
Crucially, some aspects of her personal stories also appear to be untrue: while Beck has claimed Stevie “ran away from home”, Stevie has confirmed that they actually moved out of their home as an adult at the age of 19. In many of her posts, Beck openly desires to control her child’s medical decisions and life choices far beyond the age of majority. In comments by the Gravatar profile “sharonmarie398” on the anti-trans blog 4thWaveNow, first as “Sharon Beck” and then as “Marie”, Beck describes demanding that Stevie wait to transition “until after college” (see Chronological Dossier, 2017-07-30) and cutting them off from any support in order to prevent them from transitioning (see 2017-06-15):
Wow, We cut our daughter off as far as money for school, rent, anything. We hope it slows the process and it has. She has bills to pay and we hope by the time she actually saves for the terrible surgeries, she will get frustrated. All we asked was for her to wait. No, we don’t approve or agree, and pray for her. She’s in a cult of trans people who take care of her -giving her anything she wants.
Elsewhere, she described her child’s transition as “like watching a new mercedes crash in slow motion. She was so beautiful not long ago, a beautiful creation” (2017-05-04), and states that “I feel blessed that I don’t see my kid much” (2017-11-01). Notably, Beck repeatedly blames the private Catholic school Ursuline Academy of Cincinnati for her child being trans, claiming “that’s where my oldest got all the gender ideas in the first place” (2017-07-22) and “they encourage this” (2017-07-29). In 4thWaveNow’s comments, she advises other parents of trans youth to “switch schools”, add internet access controls, “inform her of the facts that this is a mental disorder”, and overload their child with extracurricular activities “that will just keep her so busy she can’t do much else” (2017-07-29):
Are there extra curricular activities outside of school that she could do? If the school is supporting this, I would switch schools because they tend to go behind your back if they are an activist. Regarding computer controls, OPEN DNR is a good one – it’s about $20 a year. Who are her friends? Anyway, try not to panic but get to the bottom of it with the who, what, where, when questions. And inform her of the facts that this is a mental disorder – does she want to be a medical patient? I hope that helps and if she is at Ursuline Academy – they encourage this. Unfortunately, it’s not going to go away. I would suggest trying to keep her really busy – plays, soccer, kick boxing, anything that will just keep her so busy she can’t do much else.
(As “Marie”, Beck posted an email address, sher398@earthlink.net [2017-09-07], that also appears in a 2011 flyer from the Ursuline Academy of Cincinnati advertising Stephen and Sharon’s family ski club. The “Shari Beck” Facebook account also posted on 2019-02-20 about her issues with the Ursuline Academy.) During her time on 4thWaveNow, Beck suggested several questionably legal methods for parents to interfere with their children’s insurance and healthcare access (“find a way to drop her”), including falsely stating to an insurance company that their adult child has their own healthcare plan (2017-10-22):
We also, due to her unstable mental condition, kept our college daughter on our insurance. Then, almost as a divine intervention, my husband lost his job and therefore the insurance. Could this happen to you? Then, it would not be your fault and she would be forced to put it off, especially since you see some doubt there. And, she would have to wait. That way it would not be your fault. Since you hardly see her, how is she to know? And then find a way to drop her. My husbands new job refused to add her because she doesn’t live with us so it would be up to us to put her back on. And for the record, the decisions you made were right at the time and she should thank you for supporting her in that way. Now that she’s an adult, it’s on her and your conscience is free. I know how you feel. I can’t give details here lest I be found out. With Obama care, we kind of were under the impression that we could not take her off so I would just call the insurance company and tell them she has her own adult plan and see if that works.
Beck advises one parent of a college student to “consider having her commute and live at home so you can better monitor what’s going on” (2018-01-04). She repeatedly recommends making spurious complaints about gender-affirming care providers to state medical boards (2017-10-22), rationalizing this on the grounds that “I was hoping that my daughter would turn things around but clearly, she’s not going to do that on her own” (2017-09-07):
In the meantime, report any misconduct to your state medical board. Report the surgeons by name and therapists. Sometimes they will suspend their practices if you are lucky. I am going to do it too. I have nothing to lose. I was hoping that my daughter would turn things around but clearly, she’s not going to do that on her own. We need to crawl through windows if need be. If my daughter was on an operating table soon, I would find out who is doing that surgery and report them to the medical board of that state. What’s there to lose?
In 2020, Beck presented as “Maria Polaris” at Cleveland Right to Life’s 2020 Bringing America Back to Life convention, with her speaker page describing her as leader of Parents of ROGD Kids Ohio and listing her email address as rogdohio@gmail.com. Alarmingly, Beck has also worked with the United States Conference of Catholic Bishops, speaking at their annual meeting in Baltimore (2020-01-01):
Maria Polaris is the Ohio Leader, Parents of Rapid Onset Gender Dysphoric Kids. Maria was born and raised in Ohio as a conservative Catholic and graduated from Miami University Ohio with a B.S. in Education. She has over 10 years professional experience in Human Resources. She has served for many years as a scout leader and youth mentor. After her daughter was taken by the transgender cult movement, Maria searched for answers and found other parents in her same situation. Since then, she has visited Washington D.C. as an advocate for Kelsey Coalition trying to convince legislators to change the system currently failing our children who are confused about their gender and are being fast tracked into a transgender identity and medical or surgical transition. She has spoken at the United States Conference of Bishops in Baltimore. She hopes to educate parents on the danger of this ideology and how to identify those that would shepherd them down the path to transition. Medical and surgical “treatments” are brutal and involve sterilization and life-threatening health risks.
The rogdohio@gmail.com email address also appears in a comment by “Maria Veradis” on an Ohio Star article about anti-trans detransitioner Sydney Wright, complaining that “at age 18, you can easily get what you want” (2019-10-14):
Unfortunately, the universities are on board and at age 18, you can easily get what you want. MIami, OSU, Case, Ohio University, and even University of Cincinnati has a gender clinic just one block from campus, and the social workers are only affirming these kids.
We have a support group in Ohio. To be a member, go to http://www.parentsofrogdkids.com. Join us as we will be working on legislative efforts in the state and beyond. It’s time to report medical harms and get something done to prevent this from being an option. We welcome any doctors to join our team. Email me: rogdohio@gmail.com
This email address was also used by Beck in a comment on Substack under the profile “Not a chicken” (@notachicken), in which she stated “I testified as Maria Polaris on May 19th” (2022-05-31):
I testified as Maria Polaris on May 19th. We need as many people to write in favor of the bill as we can get.
Here is my contact information and website: www.cardinalsupportnetwork.com (informational) and rogdohio@gmail.com is my email. Thank you for writing and I will write to this school.
“Not a chicken” added a note on 2023-11-15 accusing Netflix of promoting “the transgender cult” and speculating that “some socialist tranny” moderator would target her posts:
Truly sad that Netflix is complicit in promoting the transgender cult. In fact, by saying this, I might get kicked off the forum as some socialist tranny is probably in charge of policing it.
“Maria Veradis” also left a comment on a Transgender Trend article about trans inclusion in Scouting (2019-05-30), stating that “the Boy Scouts turned against our family values by welcoming gays to be leaders”:
Having sons and daughters in scouts, our family has fought the battle of finding the right, safe organization for our kids. American Heritage Girls is the only good option for girls. The problem is, their programs are lacking for the older girls when they need it the most in their lives. I was involved at a high level and their blatant disregard for teenage girls interest at a time when they need it the most really bothered me. When the Boy Scouts turned against our family values by welcoming gays to be leaders, then offering safe trans spaces, then offering it to girls because their numbers dropped (um, duh, LGBT community is physically smaller than their voices are). Conservatives’ views were ignored and they did what they wanted to be politically correct, – none of this is “walkback” is cutting it for me.
A Disqus account for “Maria Veradis” (mariaveradis) uses the same blue-and-white stars image as the “Maria Polaris” speaker page, and left a series of comments criticizing the Ursuline Academies and “crazy radical nuns (all lesbians?)” while recommending the websites for SEGM, Transgender Trend, and Parents of ROGD Kids:
It’s important to love them, however, promoting them is an intrinsic sin, is it not, according the Canon Law? So, the Pope really needs to be either removed or the church will lose it’s majority of members – including financial support. I know I have stopped giving to the local archbishop fund due to the constant ignorance of the dangers of the LGBT clubs that sell the gender ideology to it’s students in the Jesuit and Ursuline schools in the form of the Spectrum Clubs.
The Catholic Church needs to close all of their schools and remove any support. They are really the worst. I actually told on them – they abused many girls in my town – in front of all the archbishop educators a couple years ago, hoping they would make a phone call to my archbishop and ask him where his head is and to protect our girls from these really crazy radical nuns (all lesbians?) This is fracturing our church.
Terrible news, once again, that the Pope doesn’t condemn it. That’s because he agrees with it. Silence is equal to agreement. And, for the record, Belinda Gates graduated from an Ursuline Academy, a Catholic high school, so absolutely, she’s trying to change things and is responsible for many girls being abused as they retreat to the transgender label to escape womanhood. I take comfort in the fact that we all die, and then, sooner or later, we pay for our sins against God and our Church.
So, as a biological female, this is offensive. I know where this is going. Transgender “women”, males that identify as females will take female rights. Biden is an obvious misogynist. Trans ideology is male privilege based. Biden is not running our country. The radical left, mostly composed of pedophiles and transactivists are running it now.
The “Maria Polaris” pseudonym and the blue-and-white stars image from her speaker page also allowed us to find a Facebook profile for “Maria Borealis”, which was located at the username maria.polaris.98 and set the same image as its profile picture on 2019-08-26:
On 2020-01-25, the Borealis account made a post reaching out to “as many detransitioners as I can to get a bill out in Ohio”:
OKay, here it goes. I need as many detransitioners as I can get to get a bill out in Ohio. Anyone know of someone who could help? Or, better yet, a parent who fished their child out of a gender clinic that was harmed or almost harmed?
As Borealis, Beck’s rhetoric grows increasingly extreme, as she recounts being suspended from Medium after calling a trans woman “a threat to society” (2019-10-07):
I wish I could copy and paste why I got suspended from Medium. It was a proud moment. A recap to a transwoman: Keep your hands off our kids. You are a threat to society with your drivel about how it feels to be a woman. Go away.
On 2020-02-20, the Borealis account posts a link to the GenderConfirmation.com page on top surgery for adolescents, commenting that she intends to send pictures of surgery to “this girl” because “she might freak out”:
I plan to send the gross surgery pictures to this girl. At least she might freak out. I nearly passed out when I saw them.
Continuing, Beck states that she concealed-carries and is “dreaming of running over the trans activists” who funded Stevie’s top surgery:
If I send her the same thing I did as Channel 9, they will connect the dots. Which is why I have concealed carry, cameras all around my house. Still dreaming of running over the trans activists that helped fund my daughter’s bilateral mastectomy.
Beck has also been active in the anti-trans group Genspect’s private Discord server, joining on 2021-06-29 as “Cardinal Support Network” and describing a timeline of events consistent with her descriptions of Stevie’s transition elsewhere:
Hello, my daughter is now 25, ran away from home at age 19 with the help of a ftm 6 years older, who married her while in college, helped her get the bm a couple years ago. She’s divorced as of this week, mad as hell and I seem to be her main target. She also stalks me online.
“Cardinal Support Network” also confirms that they “found 4th Wave Now first” (2021-12-01)
Been in this so long now. I found 4th Wave Now first, then PROGD [Parents of ROGD Kids] from there. I remember searching my daughter is not my son or isn’t transgender
On 2021-11-09, Beck calls Stevie’s trans partner a “freak” in the Genspect Discord and expresses gratitude that they are divorced:
I have not been on here, however, I think it’s important to report on what happens during the age of wisdom. My daughter is now 25, and ran away from home with an older female to male with a beard at 19. This freak married her and actually wanted to be my son in law. Thankfully they divorced, and she’s in and out of our lives and getting nicer, but this group is not protected by the system. With parents out of the picture, the glitter friends and family just cheer them on. They view detransition as a horrible sin and failure.
In June of 2022, “Cardinal Support Network” asks the Genspect Discord for a psychological “protocol for these kids” being drafted by “Stella [O’Malley] and company” to send to Ohio state representative Diane Grendell (2022-06-03):
I know that Stella and company are working on a protocol for these kids for psychologists. Is there something available for a legislator? Representative Grendell, of Ohio has asked for that.
And last March, Beck provided the Genspect Discord with a link to her new Twitter, @lovingcardinal (“Mary McDevitt”) (2023-03-12):
Here’s my new twitter (previously, This Little Light, Please retweet what I wrote to her. https://twitter.com/lovingcardinal
On 2024-01-02, the @lovingcardinal account tweeted a link to a local file on their computer: “file:///C:/Users/sharo/Downloads/HB68_Davis2_Opponent.pdf”.
As @lovingcardinal, Beck has spent the last year calling phalloplasty “disgusting and needs to be outlawed as a Nazi crime”, calling a trans woman physician an “obvious pedophile[]”, claiming trans people are “addicted to the wrong sex hormones”, and calling transmasculine people “confused hysterectomy customers” with “poisoned uteruses”. Occasionally, Beck details her fear of furries and accuses Democratic men of wanting to “continue to abuse women with unprotected sex so they can get an abortion and not take any responsibility”, before resuming her accusations that “Cinci Children’s grooms kids”. At one point, she refers to Elliot Page and his partner as “broken women”.
According to Beck, “Anyone who thinks they are the opposite sex are delusional”, and “the transitioning of children reflects the Nazi movement”. And despite asserting that “A study consists of being HIGH GRADE EVIDENCE”, she later claimed that a trans girl taking estrogen “resulted in a suicide” without providing any high-quality evidence to show a causal relationship. Beck went on to accuse the girl’s parents of “abuse” for not misgendering their late daughter.
Analysis
Anti-trans groups like SEGM and Cardinal Support Network exist in a state of constant contradiction. Although they take great pains to appear credible and position themselves as simply concerned about the strength of medical science and the welfare of children, their actual function is to meet demand: the demand, from those who refuse to accept the trans people in their lives, for confirmation and justification in the form of a ready-made alternative belief system. Cardinal Support Network was not the creation of someone who wanted the best for their trans child. It was the creation of someone who calls trans people freaks, pedophiles, and Nazis, and wants to run us over with her car for crowdfunding one another’s healthcare as a community. This mentality was present at the very genesis of these groups – it is in their DNA.
The true backstory of SEGM and Cardinal Support Network is a tale of a high-control family’s refusal to accept that their child leads an independent adult life. And this one family’s tragic obsession has now spiraled so far out of control, thousands of trans adults in Ohio have been ensnared in the Becks’ vendetta against their own child. Gary Click is listening to Stephen and Sharon Beck. Why? ■
Sharon Beck known aliases
- Shari Beck
- Maria Polaris
- maria.polaris.98
- Maria Borealis
- Maria Veradis
- Mary McDevitt
- lovingcardinal
- Marie
- sharonmarie398
- sher398@earthlink.net
- rogdohio@gmail.com
Chronological Dossier
Undated
- Substack of “Not a chicken” (@notachicken).
- Pinterest profile of sher398 (“S Beck”).
2011
- 2011-10-13: Ursuline Academy of Cincinnati, calendar of events, page 5 (archive).
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2017
Beck commented on 4thWaveNow once under the name Sharon Beck using the Gravatar profile sharonmarie398 (“Wild Irish Rose”) (archive). Elsewhere on the blog, this profile posted numerous comments under the name “Marie”. The user describes conflicts with her trans child, Cincinnati Children’s Hospital, and the Ursuline Academy in a manner consistent with the Maria Polaris/Maria Borealis (maria.polaris.98) profile on Facebook and with her 2022-05-19 testimony on Ohio HB 454.
Note: Not to be confused with the pseudonym “Marie Verite” previously used by 4thWaveNow founder Denise Caignon.
- 2017-03-22, 4:32 PM as “Marie” (archive):
Hi,
I think it’s important to realize that we need to focus on facts and try to keep emotion out of it, lest it divide us. I am a religious person and so is my trans daughter which is actually a good thing if you think about what transition does to your body. And when science and common sense have not reached a kid who wants this change, many parents having nothing else to turn to except their religion at this point. Prayers are all they have. So respect goes both ways – we all have ways we cope that give us comfort. I did not start out religious although raised quite strict. And that being said, I do not want to scare away anyone who is trans and thinking about changing their mind because they see a religious post and make an assumption that the person is pushing this. Life is a spiritual journey no matter what your beliefs. Love is what needs to be encouraged and kind truth sharing.
Thanks for all you do and all the hard work and openness. It is appreciated.
We are going through the same thing. Our daughter is now 21 and no longer lives with us all of this looks familiar I missed as if reading from a call to Playbook give in to them when they arrive at College. after our daughter came home from freshman year shortly thereafter she picked a fight with me and I didn’t really understand what was going on. It was a really stupid fight because it was just about getting rats as pets for the next year and College. We went ahead and got them because she assured us that she had already cleared the way for them to be allowed. A month later a transgender twenty-six-year-old person picked her up while I was not at home. And shortly after that she had taken hormones and her voice was deeper at least if she made it appear that way. She insisted that this person is her friend and is just helping her stay afloat. Make no mistake this is a called [sic] and they take care of each other and these people are talking there are children, making them believe that we know nothing we don’t understand them how could we possibly understand them? The answer seems to be knocked the family out of their lives. I can tell you my youngest has been Shattered by this and we occasionally see our daughter who is now very manly dresses like a boy and still hangs out with his person and they are very close. Where do I start? We just try to keep in touch with her ask her a lot of questions and tell her that we love her and miss her.
My heart goes out to you. Severe trauma is part of this. Go to Thirdwaytrans. He’s a psychologist and desisted. Might be able to help you.
Wow, my child is gifted and thinks she’s trans. I will check it out. Thanks
- 2017-04-26, 9:29 AM as “Sharon Beck” (archive):
You are a WILLING victim of a terrible misleading ideology. There are two genders male and female. All these other manifestations are a fad to try and normalize transexualism, which is a real and extremely rare mentality ill condition. In 2013 this was lifted up to trangender and the condition is so disturbing to many youth that this could possibly describe them that they are told the only relief is surgery. Not true. This is a big money maker now and if I were you I would run as fast as you can. Do you want this sort of attention the rest of your life? Folks my age view this for what it is. Mental illness. Grow up and enjoy your life. You only live once.
Potentilla, I so appreciate this. I love to garden too. In fact, I believe gardening is a way that God communicates with us – like children. For me, just the other day when I was very sad about my daughter who has moved out and decided to transition with a much older person (7 years), I pray a lot. I accidentally picked up a flower called an Archangel and also an Opal Innocent. Shortly there after when I was walking my dog (praying), I found a four leaf clover patch along with 5 leaf clovers. This made me think that my smart girl will get through this. Until then, I try not to take it too hard, although it’s like watching a new mercedes crash in slow motion. She was so beautiful not long ago, a beautiful creation, just like you! You are a hero. Thank you. Happy planting!
CALL THE PRINCIPAL RIGHT AWAY. SAY ANYTHING TO KEEP THAT SCHOOL STAFF AWAY FROM HER.SHE IS AN ACTIVIST. THE SAME THING HAPPENED TO MY DAUGHTER AND NOW SHE’S GONE. CITE MENTAL ABUSE AND REPORT IT AS CHILD ABUSE RIGHT AWAY.SHES A MINOR SO SHE HAS NO RIGHT TO SEE HER ALONE WITHOUT PARENTS CONSENT. IF THEY DON’T COMPLY, MOVE HER OUT OF THE SCHOOL AFTER REPORTING HER TO THE STATE AUTHORITY.
Wow, We cut our daughter off as far as money for school, rent, anything. We hope it slows the process and it has. She has bills to pay and we hope by the time she actually saves for the terrible surgeries, she will get frustrated. All we asked was for her to wait. No, we don’t approve or agree, and pray for her. She’s in a cult of trans people who take care of her -giving her anything she wants. We hope she sees through it. Just dealing with the sibling sadness and our own is enough for now. We are so heartbroken.
Regarding Insurance: Heed this: Because of Obama Care, you are not permitted to take your child off insurance until 26 by law – even if they get married. I know because we tried. She could sue us, which I am sure she would have no problem doing. Then she would have money to really do some damage. Her partner got a job at the college and just had her first surgery. There are co-pays but around here, threaten to sue or out the college and you get what you want.
I believe it’s overdue to start our own conferences. I am not an activist by nature but I think many here are great speakers, have professional insight. It could be a closed conference where people are thoroughly vetted first. I know 4 families near me who could really benefit. All we are getting is why we are wrong. At the end, we could have a couple testimonies, like Maria Catt is awesome and also so is the third way trans person. We could call it “A Second Opinion”. I just don’t understand these teens who won’t listen to their parents. If you are diagnosed with a serious disease and the doctor says you need surgery. Your parents disagree and you get a second or even third opinion. These parents are not getting that. What if they are wrong? Does a disclosure agreement really matter at that point?
Hi, does she attend an Ursuline Academy? If so, that’s where my oldest got all the gender ideas in the first place. My second daughter was just crushed by this because she was witnesses to staff members encouraging it through a club. Feel free to contact me.
Lily, I believe the best way is to stay calm and take the Columbo approach and ask some open ended questions: How did she come to this conclusion? Who else in her friend group is on the same route? Why does she think this especially since your experience says the opposite. Why does she think this? And then, look at what she’s viewing on her phone/computer and put limits there. High school was a huge problem – and ours went to a private all girl school but I would check there into the clubs and see what they support. My oldest supported gender identity and health class learned all about this stuff. And try not to panic. Show her some facts – like wearing a binder is dangerous. There are some pretty scary videos out there. Is she depressed? Does she fit in socially? Are there extra curricular activities outside of school that she could do? If the school is supporting this, I would switch schools because they tend to go behind your back if they are an activist. Regarding computer controls, OPEN DNR is a good one – it’s about $20 a year. Who are her friends? Anyway, try not to panic but get to the bottom of it with the who, what, where, when questions. And inform her of the facts that this is a mental disorder – does she want to be a medical patient? I hope that helps and if she is at Ursuline Academy – they encourage this. Unfortunately, it’s not going to go away. I would suggest trying to keep her really busy – plays, soccer, kick boxing, anything that will just keep her so busy she can’t do much else. You are in a great place so please, don’t worry about being hated. And stay on the same page as your spouse. Avoid gender therapists. Most are activists. Turns out my own daughter had this idea in her head when she was 15. Everyone knew but us, including the school staff, friends and even her psychologist. They kept it from us even though she was a minor. There are good therapists out there, but most do not have “gender specialists” on their business card. I have a good one in Ohio that my oldest sister went to that really helped support her in the midst of her sister’s disappearance. I believe if this was real, as moms, we would have seen it coming when they are toddlers and it appears that the studies conclude this as well. I am not in charge of this blog, just a mom trying to cope and help support other moms.
This is a fantastic article. I will definitely share this. Is there anything out there once College sets in? My daughters ideation on this really solidified after entering College where she had a lot of support in the art scene for being a transgender. She left him shortly thereafter. And now lives in a community. We do get some time with her but not enough to make much of a difference. She is on her own financially however is we are not paying for anything that she does. This was her choice when we put our foot down and asked her to wait until after college.
I am starting a novena if anyone wants to join me, email me at sher398@earthlink.net and I can explain how it works. It’s only 7 days.
Here is the address of the surgeon general. I am going to go for it. I am still entangled in the fight with the Catholic church here in Cincinnati regarding what my daughters were taught in the all girl school there. Glimmers of hope but I am not giving up. It takes up so much time. We switched our daughter to another all girl catholic school that doesn’t promote this gender idealogy garbage. It’s been so damaging.
All good questions for the new Surgeon General. In the meantime, report any misconduct to your state medical board. Report the surgeons by name and therapists. Sometimes they will suspend their practices if you are lucky. I am going to do it too. I have nothing to lose. I was hoping that my daughter would turn things around but clearly, she’s not going to do that on her own. We need to crawl through windows if need be. If my daughter was on an operating table soon, I would find out who is doing that surgery and report them to the medical board of that state. What’s there to lose?
I would also report all these doctors to the state board. If you know any other parents who can colaborate your story as far as being pressured, do it. Do it now. Many times if there is a complaint, the doctors have to suspend their practices. These girls are too young, and it’s malpractice with a capital M.
Wow, you and are nearly in the same boat. We also, due to her unstable mental condition, kept our college daughter on our insurance. Then, almost as a divine intervention, my husband lost his job and therefore the insurance. Could this happen to you? Then, it would not be your fault and she would be forced to put it off, especially since you see some doubt there. And, she would have to wait. That way it would not be your fault. Since you hardly see her, how is she to know? And then find a way to drop her. My husbands new job refused to add her because she doesn’t live with us so it would be up to us to put her back on. And for the record, the decisions you made were right at the time and she should thank you for supporting her in that way. Now that she’s an adult, it’s on her and your conscience is free. I know how you feel. I can’t give details here lest I be found out. With Obama care, we kind of were under the impression that we could not take her off so I would just call the insurance company and tell them she has her own adult plan and see if that works. Peace to you. My heart breaks for you.
Yes I agree that we do need this support group. The last couple days I have been attempting to go through my daughter’s room and pull out all the evidence of coercion that happened to her in high school, gather it and report it to authorities. I am not really sure that it will actually do anything for anyone except for me to go on with my life and to count my blessings of which there are many. I am pondering forever in my heart
Third way Trans is a very good resource and I would have him reach out there. The man who detransitioned is relatively young. He’s super nice and would email your son back. Also have read about permanent chanel in any of Walter Heyer books. His friends will end up ditching him, then what? And I would ask, What if you’re wrong? The consequences are irreversible. Also the book Boundaries is a good one along with Safe People. After reading these, it helped me understand that I have the right to my own emotional health and boundaries. Not WATCHING the process is something I feel blessed that I don’t see my kid much. It hurts both 9f us, but what kind of life is it when your own family disagrees and doesn’t want to be involved? To me it’s a sign to run as fast as you can as a youth. Keep asking questions and giving him additional resources. And stay callm. If you are still in his life, then you have influence and can be his north star. Don’t give in bit listen and ask questions.
Suffering Mom, I would say then disengage completely from therapists. It is fully within your right to have a therapist be on the same page. I know this because our second daughter’s therapist told me so as she was supporting her because of her sisters choice to become transgender. Its important to communicate unintended consequences. So, there are reasons why you cannot do therapy. One is money and insurance. Another is timing of the visits and the homework required. Research DBT skills online or a DBT therapist. They give skills on how to cope with adversity. There’s also a workbook my daughter was given about how to communicate with others. These kids do not understand the danger of this. It seems cool and fun and a great escape from reality. Also, find an activity that will keep her really busy. And if she still insists on therapy, then have her get a job so she pay for it herself. Getting a small job out in the community really helps reality. Keep her off the internet and put restrictions on it. Open DNR is what use. Also, monitor her cell phone use. […] It’s a tough road but learning how to speak to her is great and just keep looking for a therapist and don’t be afraid to ask direct questions about this transgender idealogy and if they agree. There are plenty out there who do NOT. God bless you and take care. Also, ask your friends or a local church for a therapist. They tend to know and if they have anything regarding gender on their business card, this is a strong indication that they are activist oriented and will work behind your back.
Jane, I agree. You know my mother said that my brother told her that I should accept what my daughter is doing and so I said, great, where can I ship hormones to his daughter and see how he likes it? There’s no difference between our kids, except mine is gifted and sweet, with empathy for everyone around her yet lets this project onto her soul. Well, needless to say, that shut him up. I get so sick and tired of family members who don’t have the decency to attend a birthday party but they say crap like that. So I am with you there. It’s amazing how this idealogy brings out the worst in some and the best in others that you would not expect.
Jane,
Thanks. Sorry I vented like that it’s just so frustrating because family is supposed to back you up and not talk about you and it’s been going on for years and years. There’s always been an unhealthy competition going on that I had no interest in and it’s just another screw or stab in the back that we just don’t need. When families like ours go through things like this it’s just important to respect how the parents feel and if they don’t agree well then likely they’re probably right. We know our kids better than anyone in the world and we love them and care for their best interest more than anybody in this world. We gave everything to our daughter and quite frankly she’s very spoiled and this is the one thing that we’re not going to give her. We can talk about anything else we can help her with other small things but as far as big money goes absolutely not. I believe she’s finally not looking at it as a personal rejection but just something we strongly disagree with. And we hope that she thinks long and hard about the unintended consequences that will follow her for the rest of her life.
To all these wonderful fathers out there please do not give up on your daughters your intuitions are correct. My husband and I have been going through this For a couple years now. Our daughter has found a way to continue this without us and although she is still very young she is still very confused but surrounded herself with people who are supporting her. So get tough and do everything that you can and the internet is a huge battle and a huge step to protecting these girls. We use a system called Open DNS and it is a fabulous blocker for blogging. I’m actually blocked a lot and have to ask for permission so it is good for the whole entire family and we have younger children so we decided to put it on years ago. Reading app and openly sharing statistics is good and there’s a lot of information on transgender Trend and transgendercult. Com and I posted earlier about a book that I bought it’s really really good and has detransitioned women blogs. It is the most dangerous called [sic] of our time set up by the Liberals to make money off of us. There is also a really great documentary that was posted. I would suggest you and your daughters watch it together. In the meantime if you could please keep our daughter in your prayers she’s about to take a very scary step and hit it from us. There’s nothing we can do but pray for her and hope that she will come around and come home again. I’ve never seen any medical condition in my lifetime that excludes parents and harms girls without any data to support that this actually helps them rather than harms them. The harm is evident yet it continues. It is a great evil. Give them chores make them work Jobs get them out socially keep them busy put them in music find an interest put them in Taekwondo anything to keep them really busy and to get them outside of their little bubble in their room and the internet. Research colleges above and beyond what you would normally do. And have them commute if needed.
2018
@ Nicholas. You do have a point here, however, isn’t the daughter showing she cannot be trusted by being disobedient and hiding things that can potentially harm her and will. Each parent has to follow her gut and if I had followed mine and not pried more, my daughter might still be with me today. They got her. They meaning the transactivists. She’s gone. So yes, do EVERYTHING you can. This is not a normal teenage stage of hiding alcohol or sleeping around behind our backs, it’s letting the online predators in and these days, it’s a huge challenge to keep them out. Trust is important but it seems to me that the daughter has already broken this trust and is being influenced as a TEEN by those that would harm her for life. They care more for their ideology than the health of the teen. They do not love the teen, they do not know the teen. It really seems to be a quest against parents. And guess what, they won in my case. And I get to live with it. She ran away and we did not have a clue what was going on. […] So, you betrayed your parents trust by acting like an ass most likely. Trust is difficult but not impossible to rebuild. You can start by doing your part and apologizing and have the same life in person as you do online. Parents are not the haters here, they are the lovers who don’t stop loving or worrying about what society does to their kids once they become teens. Once they are adults, do stop blaming your parents for your isolation and self destructive actions. Please. It really is heartbreaking for us to watch this shit show and be called the haters in the end because we don’t happen to like carnage on our own kids being done in the name of “acceptance”. You got in trouble for hiding things from your parents – that’s your doing not theirs.
[…] I say yes, yes, monitor, monitor because I don’t want them going through the hell that I am in – just a few years ahead of them. I strongly encourage it for sure. This “stage” is extremely dangerous to the long term mental and physical health to teens who are not comfortable in their own skins. I am not sure if you understand what this forum’s purpose is. Predators stalking the internet trying to convince young teens and adults that they need to alter themselves is socially unacceptable, unethical, immoral and inhumane and I am hoping one day, ILLEGAL. In this era, the internet has become the biggest, quietest, sneakiest threat to children. This cult culture of trangenderism – previously transexualism to permanently changing a teen’s body – only to have that person grow up and regret it – this is the reality that parents are forced into facing. Introverts, socially awkward, shy, bullied, depressed, social anxiety experience, fear of being gay, internet addicted, isolated (I am sure I missed some) go on the internet to belong somewhere because real life is tough and kids are mean. They are trying to figure out who they are. Google cases. Teens are not in charge, adults are. […] Protection is not invasive, it’s a responsibility. So by your theory, if my teen wanted to jump off a building without a parachute to experience it, you think that’s cool? My goodness. I think I will take the advice of the adult professionals on here with life experiences like me and credentials. I might not be able to change my kids’ decisions but I certainly am happy that I live in a free country that isn’t forcing me to applaud the bad ones that I know in my heart will not end well.
Nicholas, I think we are way off subject here and I am sorry if I have insulted you. It sounds like your sister is a lot like my other kids and so are you. I actually don’t monitor any of them as closely as I did my oldest kid. You have to understand that kids do come on here just to torment parents whose children are transitioning socially in school without parent knowledge (my case), within the realm of a therapist being seen for something unrelated (depression in my case), or medically (surgeries and HRT behind our backs in college (in my case) without a diagnosis other than they want to “explore themselves”. And are given HRT after an hour visit and only agreeing with the child (in my case). […] I can assure you, since you seem to be the most stable part of your little sisters life, I would say that if you are transitioning or even considering it, this will likely end your relationship with her as adults as she will view this as a very personal betrayal – not just a little “change”. Your presence in her life as an older brother is a role model is very important to her right now. This will mentally crush her as it has done with my kids whose sibling began medically transitioning at 18 in college and came home looking and sounding like a completely different person. At 18, you are considered an adult who can give consent to it without your parent’s knowledge or approval, long term permanent consequences that most teenagers really don’t understand. I appreciate your trying to understand but again, this is a forum for adults who have children who are medically transitioned and either left home (as the cult that it is encourages) or are entering the transition rooms on line where they are getting coached by trans activists. These are very manipulative individuals. These are very dangerous people. Now, do transsexual people exist? Absolutely – yet most of them just a couple years ago could not medically transition without at least a 2 year assessment which has pretty much disappeared. Many of them do not medically transition. This is not the case with these teenage girls or adolescent (18-21) females of today. They are being pushed by peers and mostly online chat rooms that are befriending children who are on there due to loneliness, social and anxiety, awkwardness, depression- autistic or isolated for some reason or worse yet a severe trauma or abuse which was never fully healed or dealt with. For many, they were being seen by a therapist for these problems and next perhaps ask a therapist about “feeling like they are in the wrong body”. This is where the gray area starts as therapists when you are 16, really don’t have to tell the parents what’s going on. They could be seeing an affirming therapist that will refer them to another one to begin the process of transition as young as 18. Is this ok? Would you want your sister to do this to you? Do you believe that your life experience with her matters more than what a therapist thinks after a half hour? Check out the history of lobotomy. At one point, this was considered a great way to control a rowdy teenager in the 50’s and 60’s. There is a Kennedy girl – search her who received one. She ended up being a vegetable the rest of her life. Still, the medical community allowed this procedure to go on for quite a while before anything was done to stop it. It resulted in many, many victims – and they could not get their brains back. In some cases, there have been deaths and major life threatening complications that I would not let my own daughter see online. But online, it’s all out there for anyone to see. […]
Linda, it seems like our kids could have been best friends. The college scene is pushing hard on this and if she’s in a public college, I would look into what’s going on there. Mine began in the chat rooms and got affirmed by a therapist and went straight to the LGBT group for help on how to transition. I don’t want to scare you, but by her second year, she was financially independent and living in a trans group in a house. They stick together and find ways to make it without the parents. So, try and stay calm – OPEN DNS is a great start regarding the computer part – or another blocking device. I would definitely keep tracking her phone. Keep your cool and stay close to her. Show her the end in 5 years. Transgender Trend is a great website. I am currently reading Transgender Children and Young People – Born in Your Own Body. It’s a good read. She might already have an in person group that’s she’s not telling you about. This is prevalent in the public colleges. I would even consider having her commute and live at home so you can better monitor what’s going on. Ours used college insurance to get a gender therapist behind our backs and got the testosterone that way. Other college insurance provides this service too. Keep talking to her and showing her the truth. Another great read is here:http://www.greenwomanstore.com/blood-and-visions.html This is about women who have already medically transitioned and regret it. Read it first. Good luck!
2019
- 2019-02-20: The Facebook account for “Shari Beck” describes her experience with American Heritage Girls alternative scouting troops and her ongoing issues with Ursuline Academies.
- 2019-05-30: A user named “Maria Veradis” comments on the Transgender Trend article “The Scout Association’s New Transgender Guidance is a Big Step Forward”, describing Scouting organizations and American Heritage Girls in a manner consistent with the “Shari Beck” Facebook account. “Maria Veradis” also makes reference to the Kelsey Coalition, an early anti-trans parent “support group”; the 2020 Bringing America Back to Life Convention’s speaker page for “Maria Polaris” describes her advocacy on behalf of the Kelsey Coalition.
Having sons and daughters in scouts, our family has fought the battle of finding the right, safe organization for our kids. American Heritage Girls is the only good option for girls. The problem is, their programs are lacking for the older girls when they need it the most in their lives. I was involved at a high level and their blatant disregard for teenage girls interest at a time when they need it the most really bothered me. When the Boy Scouts turned against our family values by welcoming gays to be leaders, then offering safe trans spaces, then offering it to girls because their numbers dropped (um, duh, LGBT community is physically smaller than their voices are). Conservatives’ views were ignored and they did what they wanted to be politically correct, – none of this is “walkback” is cutting it for me. I spent years of my life, paid a lot of money when I could have enrolled my kids in music or martial arts and camped with my family with family friends. I don’t recommend scouts to anyone any more. They have lost their moral compass skills and put children in danger all around without bothering to look at the harmful ideology that trans is for all children of this age. They can’t seem to find themselves out of the liberal box that they willing fell into. Scouting is over and left to the churches to protect their kids. RIP Let’s hope Kelsey Coalition puts a stop to the medical harms that are happening now to trans identifying youth.
- 2019-07-05: The Disqus account “Maria Veradis” (mariaveradis) is created (archive). The account uses the same profile image as “Maria Polaris” at the 2020 Bringing America Back to Life Convention. Across several websites, “Maria Veradis” leaves comments recommending the websites for SEGM, Transgender Trend, and Parents of ROGD Kids, while continuing to explain her issues with Ursuline Academies and claiming that “[t]he devil wants to destroy our beautiful church”:
It’s important to love them, however, promoting them is an intrinsic sin, is it not, according the Canon Law? So, the Pope really needs to be either removed or the church will lose it’s majority of members – including financial support. I know I have stopped giving to the local archbishop fund due to the constant ignorance of the dangers of the LGBT clubs that sell the gender ideology to it’s students in the Jesuit and Ursuline schools in the form of the Spectrum Clubs. This has resulted in the medical transition abuse of minors across the world. And it’s going to be the next biggest scandal once the medical community catches up with it.
Terrible news, once again, that the Pope doesn’t condemn it. That’s because he agrees with it. Silence is equal to agreement. And, for the record, Belinda Gates graduated from an Ursuline Academy, a Catholic high school, so absolutely, she’s trying to change things and is responsible for many girls being abused as they retreat to the transgender label to escape womanhood. I take comfort in the fact that we all die, and then, sooner or later, we pay for our sins against God and our Church.
Ursuline Academies have been quietly supporting the LGBT movement for many years. Now, they are officially out of the closet and have been since 2014 in many of the schools – harassing students who refuse to join the Spectrum Clubs, putting in gender ideology in the papers, treating the LGBT movement as a culture of it’s own – like German culture – oh it’s the same now. The Catholic Church needs to close all of their schools and remove any support. They are really the worst. I actually told on them – they abused many girls in my town – in front of all the archbishop educators a couple years ago, hoping they would make a phone call to my archbishop and ask him where his head is and to protect our girls from these really crazy radical nuns (all lesbians?) This is fracturing our church. To be honest, the church needs us more than we need them at this point. I attend a traditional Catholic Church. I support that priest, and every once in a while, he gets attacked by some liberal Catholic. If you don’t like the Catholic church, leave. Make your own LGBT church. But that’s not want the devil wants. The devil wants to destroy our beautiful church. The problem is, the archdiocese doesn’t respond to parents when there is an obvious Canon Law breakage, then they have the audacity to send in requests for money to the archbishop fund!
If you do a lot of drugs and cry because you are drunk, does that mean you are a woman? Some of these folks are also drug addicts and have severe mental conditions so having a conversation with them is a waste of time.
- 2019-08-26: The “Maria Polaris”/“Maria Borealis” Facebook account (maria.polaris.98) sets its profile picture to the same image used for “Maria Polaris” at the 2020 Bringing America Back to Life Convention.
- 2019-10-07: The “Maria Polaris”/“Maria Borealis” Facebook account posts a link to “Alternatives to transition: A step-by-step guide to thinking your way out of dysphoria without repressing it”.
Later that day, the account posts:
I wish I could copy and paste why I got suspended from Medium. It was a proud moment. A recap to a transwoman: Keep your hands off our kids. You are a threat to society with your drivel about how it feels to be a woman. Go away.
- 2019-10-14: “Maria Veradis” comments on the Ohio Star article “Commentary: I Spent a Year as a Trans Man Where Doctors Failed Me at Every Turn”, listing the same rogdohio@gmail.com address later used on “Maria Polaris’” Bringing America Back to Life 2020 speaker page:
I am so glad to see a story like hers published in Ohio. She’s so brave for doing this. Unfortunately, the universities are on board and at age 18, you can easily get what you want. MIami, OSU, Case, Ohio University, and even University of Cincinnati has a gender clinic just one block from campus, and the social workers are only affirming these kids.
We have a support group in Ohio. To be a member, go to http://www.parentsofrogdkids.com. Join us as we will be working on legislative efforts in the state and beyond. It’s time to report medical harms and get something done to prevent this from being an option. We welcome any doctors to join our team. Email me: rogdohio@gmail.com
- 2019-12-09: “Maria Polaris, Parents of Rapid Onset Gender Dysphoric kids” comments on “Board of Medicine guidance on conversion therapy” on the Virginia Regulatory Town Hall:
Please do not pass this law
There is a growing number of adolescents and children who either regret transitioning or are being harmed by the gender trafficking of children and young people based on a belief system that is not based in science – but a radical cult like ideology. While is not okay to use conversion therapy on LGB individuals, gender ideology should not be put alongside this. If a girl believes she is a boy and even has a same sex attraction (often happening) she might think she is transgender, although we all know, this does not change her sex. TTaking away her breasts does not make her a boy. Giving her a fake penis does not make her able to father children. So taking away the sex primary organs at such a young age before the front lobe is developed, thus sterilizing this girl or boy in the process does more harm than good. There are no studies that indicate that this will be successful and the detransitioners are proving this every day. Trans gender lobbies are looking to profit off these vulnerable individuals who more often than not have depression, anxiety, even autism, body dysmorphic disorders, bipolar, even more serious multiple personality disorders that are going unaddressed and a physical trauma and being trapped as a life long medical patient only makes matters worse at the tender age of 18 – in some states it is much younger. Please stop conflating gender identity with sexual orientation. They are completely different. Please help these vulnerable youth and protect them from this horrible medical catastrophe taking place. It is dividing families and isolating these young adolescents into cult living situations where their parents cannot protect them.
For more info go to www.kelseycoalition.org or parentsofrogdkids.com
2020
- 2020-01-01: The 2020 Bringing America Back to Life Convention speaker page for “Maria Polaris” describes her as working with the Kelsey Coalition and speaking to the United States Conference of Catholic Bishops at their meeting in Baltimore. The page also links to SEGM, calling it the “Society for Gender Based Medicine” (archive), and includes the email address rogdohio@gmail.com. The profile image used in place of a photo of Beck had been set as a profile photo for the “Maria Polaris”/“Maria Borealis” Facebook account on 2019-08-26.
Maria Polaris is the Ohio Leader, Parents of Rapid Onset Gender Dysphoric Kids. Maria was born and raised in Ohio as a conservative Catholic and graduated from Miami University Ohio with a B.S. in Education. She has over 10 years professional experience in Human Resources. She has served for many years as a scout leader and youth mentor. After her daughter was taken by the transgender cult movement, Maria searched for answers and found other parents in her same situation. Since then, she has visited Washington D.C. as an advocate for Kelsey Coalition trying to convince legislators to change the system currently failing our children who are confused about their gender and are being fast tracked into a transgender identity and medical or surgical transition. She has spoken at the United States Conference of Bishops in Baltimore. She hopes to educate parents on the danger of this ideology and how to identify those that would shepherd them down the path to transition. Medical and surgical “treatments” are brutal and involve sterilization and life-threatening health risks.
Click below for more information:
The Society for Gender Based Medicine
Gender Resource Guide
- 2020-01-25: The “Maria Polaris”/ “Maria Borealis” Facebook account posts:
OKay, here it goes. I need as many detransitioners as I can get to get a bill out in Ohio. Anyone know of someone who could help? Or, better yet, a parent who fished their child out of a gender clinic that was harmed or almost harmed?
- 2020-02-20: The “Maria Polaris”/“Maria Borealis” Facebook page posts a link to the com page on top surgery for adolescents. In the comments, Beck writes:
I plan to send the gross surgery pictures to this girl. At least she might freak out. I nearly passed out when I saw them.
She continues:
If I send her the same thing I did as Channel 9, they will connect the dots. Which is why I have concealed carry, cameras all around my house. Still dreaming of running over the trans activists that helped fund my daughter’s bilateral mastectomy.
- 2020-03-06: Beck delivers her speech at BABL 2020, “The Dangers of Gender Clinics in Ohio”, in Independence, OH (archive).
- 2020-05-04: “Maria Polaris” comments twice on the Transgender Trend article “Covid-19 and trans healthcare provision”:
I just wanted to say “May the 4th be with you!” We parents, detransitioners, siblings, society at large thank you for your perseverance in defeating this ideology that has taken over schools, the internet and young minds of such beautiful souls that want to be loved. Thank you.
Also, I would like to give some information for an article for the harms that are being done in my state. If someone could email me, that would be great.
- 2020-07-11: A Facebook account for “Shari Beck” changes its profile photo to a picture of Sharon Beck and Dr. Stephen Beck.
- 2020-10-23: A Facebook account for “Steve Beck” (Stephen Beck) changes its profile picture to another photo of Sharon Beck and Stephen Beck.
- 2020-11-19: Ohio HB 369, the Ohio Fairness Act (“to prohibit discrimination on the basis of sexual orientation or gender identity or expression”), has its third hearing in the House Civil Justice Committee. “Maria Polaris”, listing her affiliation as “Parents of Rapid Onset Gender Dysphoric Kids”, submits written testimony opposing the bill:
Educating children as indicated in line 2158 of this bill would solidify the abuse currently taking place in Ohio. While we do not believe anyone should be discriminated against for any reason, we believe this bill is a Trojan horse aimed at steering our youth down this path to medical transitions because it plans to educate preschool age children into believing they are “born in the wrong body”. (3) This would lead them into identifying as transgender, which will lead them to the gender clinics, then unnecessary gender treatments and ending with a lifetime of regret.
- 2020-11-28: “Maria Polaris” appears on the Mission America podcast episode “The Truth about Teen Gender Confusion”.
2021
- 2021-02-19: “Maria Polaris” appears on episode 72 of the Ruth Institute’s podcast with Jennifer Roback Morse.
Maria Polaris (not her real name) and her husband’s lives were turned upside down when their daughter ran away from home after her first year of college in 2015. Someone they didn’t know picked up their daughter and helped her attempt to change sex.
“Since then,” Maria says, “our family has had to find ways to cope, because once a child is 18, they can do whatever they want in the U.S. including, full medical transition without psychological assessments. This has led to regret and grave errors in the medical community. Ohio has six major gender clinics with the largest one boasting over 1600 patients (funded by a family in the process of transitioning their own child since age 3).”
- 2021-06-29: “Cardinal Support Network” joins the Genspect private Discord server and describes a series of events involving their now-adult child’s transition; the timeline is consistent with events as relayed by “Maria Polaris” on the 2021-02-19 Ruth Institute podcast:
Hello, my daughter is now 25, ran away from home at age 19 with the help of a ftm 6 years older, who married her while in college, helped her get the bm a couple years ago. She’s divorced as of this week, mad as hell and I seem to be her main target. She also stalks me online.
- 2021-07-02: In the Genspect Discord, the “Cardinal Support Network” account identifies themselves as the leader of Cardinal Support Network in Ohio, and describes transitioning as “almost like sex trafficking”:
Hello, I am the Cardinal Support Leader in Ohio, in case there are any Ohio families here. I also have a lost adult daughter in this. When they are over 18, it’s tough and hopefully sharing our stories through Genspect might help society know what a medical catastrophe this is. Coping skills are important – keeping busy and sharing the truth with your other children. It really is a cult. Finding in person support is important, a family friend, a good friend, is definitely important. And sometimes, we can’t control what’s happening, we just have to keep telling them we love them but we don’t see the medical studies or evidence to support it. It’s almost like sex trafficking if you think about it.
- 2021-08-29: As “Maria Polaris”, Beck appears on Deep Green Resistance’s podcast with Derrick Jensen. DGR, founded by Lierre Keith and Derrick Jensen, has been described as an ecofascist group advocating for “violent action that would cause a mass die-off of humanity in order to save the environment”.
“It’s not that we hate trans people or that we’re transphobes, you know, we’re parents that are just trying to get our kids the best support available.” —Sharon Beck (12:54)
- 2021-11-09: In the Genspect private Discord, “Cardinal Support Network” again describes events consistent with “Maria Polaris” on the Ruth Institute 2021-02-19 podcast.
I have not been on here, however, I think it’s important to report on what happens during the age of wisdom. My daughter is now 25, and ran away from home with an older female to male with a beard at 19. This freak married her and actually wanted to be my son in law. Thankfully they divorced, and she’s in and out of our lives and getting nicer, but this group is not protected by the system. With parents out of the picture, the glitter friends and family just cheer them on. They view detransition as a horrible sin and failure.
On the same day, the account also identifies themselves as “the PROGD Leader in Ohio”, requesting $4800 for a billboard campaign with the anti-trans group Partners for Ethical Care against the Cincinnati Children’s Hospital Transgender Health Clinic:
Hello everyone! I am the PROGD Leader in Ohio and also the co-founder of Cardinal Support Network (www.cardinalsupportnetwork.com). Help is needed! We have a 48 hour campaign to raise $4800 to purchase 2 billboards in Cincinnati. One is supporting the new Safe Act, a bill to protect children from transition- already been assigned a committee, and the other is to send a message to the goliath Cincinnati Gender Clinic right in the LGBT community where they prey on victims. PEC is collecting funds for us and is a non profit. The money for the first bill is due Wednesday and it’s $4,000. Please go www.partnersforethicalcare.com or our page above and donate what you can in the next 24 hours. Someone else can snap up that billboard.
- 2021-12-01: In the Genspect Discord, “Cardinal Support Network” states that they “found 4th Wave Now first”:
Been in this so long now. I found 4th Wave Now first, then PROGD from there. I remember searching my daughter is not my son or isn’t transgender
2022
- 2022-02-09: Ohio HB 371, a bill relating to coverage of supplemental screenings and mammograms for dense breast tissue, has its second hearing in the Senate Health Committee. Sharon Beck submitted written testimony under her real name, identifying herself as from Mason, Ohio, and discussed being diagnosed with inflammatory breast cancer in July 2021. Dr. Stephen Beck, treasurer of the anti-gender-affirming care group SEGM, has previously listed his location as Mason, Ohio in a letter to the editor with other SEGM members (Malone et al., 2021).
- 2022-05-19: Ohio HB 454, the 2022 version of the trans youth care ban, has its second hearing in the House Families, Aging & Human Services Committee. Appearing as “Maria Polaris”, Sharon Beck was allowed to testify as a proponent for over 45 minutes (beginning at 03:05:00). “Polaris” is clearly identifiable as the same woman in photos posted on Facebook by the “Shari Beck” and “Steve Beck” accounts (on 2020-07-11, 2020-10-23, and 2022-12-20). The Dayton Daily News describes Beck’s testimony:
Maria Polaris of the Cardinal Support Network, described as a parents’ group opposing transition therapy for “gender-confused children,” said young people are being “gaslighted” by therapists into believing they’re transgender.
“I think we all know that nobody is born in the wrong body,” she said.
State Rep. Beth Liston, D-Dublin, asked Polaris if she believed that transgender people actually exist. Polaris didn’t answer yes or no, saying that trans identity was a “horrible, negative label” to put on children.
- 2022-05-26: Ohio HB 454 has its third hearing in the House Families, Aging, & Human Services Committee. In a PDF submitted by “Maria Polaris For Anonymous My Chart Mother”, the file’s properties list the author as “Sharon Beck”. Although Beck does not testify, she appears during the hearing in the background on the far right behind a young woman with tinted glasses.
- 2022-05-31: The Substack account “Not a chicken” (@notachicken) posts a comment identifying themselves as “Maria Polaris”, stating that their website is Cardinal Support Network and their email is rogdohio@gmail.com (archive).
Hello, I would love to connect with you. Are you aware of House Bill 454, The SAFE ACT, now is the time to write to legislators. Opposition testimony is tomorrow. Please write to: rep88@ohiohouse.gov and rep84@ohiohouse.gov and Speaker Cupp. Robert Cupp – https://ohiohouse.gov/members/robert-r-cupp/contact (614) 466-9624
We need to support these Republicans and educate them on what is really happening. Here is the testimony for the bill. https://ohiochannel.org/collections/ohio-house-families-aging-and-human-services-committee
Here is the bill: https://ohiohouse.gov/legislation/134/hb454
I testified as Maria Polaris on May 19th. We need as many people to write in favor of the bill as we can get.
Here is my contact information and website: www.cardinalsupportnetwork.com (informational) and rogdohio@gmail.com is my email. Thank you for writing and I will write to this school.
- 2022-06-03: In the Genspect Discord, “Cardinal Support Network” requests “a protocol for these kids for psychologists” to send to Ohio state representative Diane Grendell:
I know that Stella and company are working on a protocol for these kids for psychologists. Is there something available for a legislator? Representative Grendell, of Ohio has asked for that.
The account goes on to describe having had a mastectomy for breast cancer at some point over the past year:
Clare, I have been through this and unfortunately have had one cancerous breast removed this past year. It is a devastating experience and since you do not agree, I would tell her that emotionally you cannot handle something this radical that will not help her deal with her mental issues – would ask her to find someone else. I would rather not feel guilty for helping her. She might threaten to estrange from you, which is what this cult will demand of her. I hope it’s not too late jumping in here. If it is, well, I would suggest some DBT therapy for yourself to try and cope. It’s been two or three years since my daughter did it to herself and I still struggle and I always will, probably even harder now that I have been through it myself due to cancer.
- 2022-10-11: “Maria Polaris” appears on an episode of the Sacred Heart Radio show “Driving Home the Faith”.
- 2022-10-25: “Maria Polaris” appears on an episode of the Sacred Heart Radio show “Driving Home the Faith”.
- 2022-11-13: Stephen and Sharon Beck’s adult child Stevie Beck (they/them) posts “Ohio’s Latest Anti-Trans Bill: Why We Should Fight Against HB454 and Protect Trans Youth”:
My initial interest in wanting to stay informed on one of the previous HB 454 hearings turned to complete shock when I tuned in to the second proponent hearing.
My anti-trans mother, under the fake name “Maria Polaris,” stepped up to the podium to tell a story to the House committee about how I was coerced by my school psychologists and healthcare providers to come out as trans and leave my family. This could not be further from the truth.
At some point, “Maria” had been convinced that my boundary to no longer engage with her was just a form of indoctrination into a so-called imaginary “trans cult”. I could feel my heart sinking from every word she spoke in that room. Her thirty-minute narrative barely made sense, but she had no hesitation to say the most negative things about me and other trans people in her speech.
- 2022-11-16: Ohio HB 454 has its fifth hearing in the House Families, Aging & Human Services Committee. Stevie Beck testifies on the harms caused by their parents, and has an exchange with Rep. Gary Click (beginning at 0:24:00):
STEVIE BECK: My name is Stevie Beck and I’m here to speak today in opposition of H.B. 454. This committee heard previously from my mother under the nickname “Maria Polaris” in the first spring proponent hearing, and it would be fair now if you heard the truth from me. I will be using my real name, because I’m not afraid to hide my opposition for this bill. […]
As an adolescent and adult, I was never coerced or coached by my psychologists, health care providers or anyone else to come out as transgender or hide this from my family. I struggled to seek any guidance or care on this topic beginning at the age of 16, because I feared familial and societal rejection. Unsupportive parents who we have heard speak in favor of this bill often think that their child’s gender questioning occurs rapidly overnight. But that is often because they created an environment in which their child felt unsafe to confide in them. I was one of these children.
If this bill were passed while I was under 18, my therapist may have been forced to share aspects about me that I feared would put me in harm. None of my therapists had experience with gender questioning youth, but they listened as I struggled to find any kind of familial support for my mental health, which declined upon realization that I was unable to be honest with my family about this. I would eventually be diagnosed with PTSD from their behavior towards me at home. I was lucky to have confidentiality and therapy as a minor because it saved my life. […]
Once I was able to access gender affirming therapy at the age of 18, I still needed to wait until the age of 19 to medically transition. My mental health and physical health took a positive turn, especially after I separated myself from people who cannot accept me. I still have to overcome many barriers just to access health care as an adult. But after seven years, I have absolutely no regrets, and my health across the board has improved. We do not want a future where transgender, nonbinary, gender nonconforming and intersex youth fear disclosing their concerns to therapists or medical providers who have the ability to help them.
In cases where families fully support their children, they should not have to flee the state for better health care. Decisions against gender affirming health care should not be made without looking at facts or unbiased current data, without serious input from licensed medical professionals, or without consideration of Ohio families and their children who have no negative experiences with gender affirming care.
Thank you.
CHAIR MANCHESTER: Thank you for your testimony. Are there any questions for the witness? Representative Click.
GARY CLICK: Thank you. Chair- Chair Manchester. Yeah, something like that. Stevie, it’s a pleasure to meet you. And as you know, I met your parents and talked to them and don’t really have any questions. The only thing I want to say to you is that your parents love you very much. And I’ve seen the tears in their eyes. And, and I believe you probably love them, too.
And just my hope is, is that someday, regardless of what decisions you make or anything like that, that you and your parents can reconcile and talk through these things, because I will just tell you that their motivation is not hate. They don’t hate you, they love you, and they love you very dearly. And I’ve seen the tears in their eyes. And I believe you love them. And so my hope is just that somehow you and your parents can reconnect no matter what the future holds, that you can reconnect and that you can love each other. Thank you for coming today.
STEVIE BECK: May I speak, Chair? Thank you, Representative Click. I would be honored and definitely willing to speak with my parents as long as my mother redacts the statement that trans people are not real. Thank you.
- 2022-12-20: The “Steve Beck” Facebook account adds another profile picture of Stephen and Sharon Beck.
2023
- 2023-01-03: @lovingcardinal describes her fear of furries (archive):
Yet, we females have been told that “Furries” are harmless. They have replaced the trench coat wearers from olden times and with the internet assisting them, all parents need to take action.
- 2023-03-12: In the Genspect Discord, the “Cardinal Support Network” provides a link to their “new twitter”, @lovingcardinal:
Hello! Soon, I am working on researching the legislators on the committee. I have discovered a surgeon that does “gender affirming hysterectomies” and the other one is affiliated with a gender clinic. I am thinking a twitter information campaign directed at them would do well. The bill gets introduced next week so we have a bit of time. Here is the committee it’s assigned to: https://duckduckgo.com/?q=ohiohouse.gove%2Fcommittees%2Fpublic-health-policy&t=newext&atb=v255-1&ia=web Here is the woman that does the hysterectomies: https://ohiohouse.gov/members/anita-somani/biography. Her twitter – I already tweeted to her. https://twitter.com/AnitaSomaniMD. Her video on doing hysterectomies: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/obgyn-dr-anita-somani-on-care-of-transgender/id1506513034?i=1000479385272. Not sure that she will listen to anyone, I tagged her in Rachel’s video from Genspect already. Here’s my new twitter (previously, This Little Light, Please retweet what I wrote to her. https://twitter.com/lovingcardinal
- 2023-03-24: “Maria Polaris” appears on an episode of the Sacred Heart Radio show “Driving Home the Faith”.
- 2023-03-27: “Maria Polaris” appears on an episode of the Sacred Heart Radio show “Driving Home the Faith”.
- 2023-04-17: @lovingcardinal asserts that transmasculine phalloplasty “is disgusting and needs to be outlawed as a Nazi crime” (archive).
- 2023-04-18: @lovingcardinal describes trans people as “addicted to the wrong sex hormones” (archive).
- 2023-04-28: @lovingcardinal states that “Anyone who thinks they are the opposite sex are delusional and incapable of making decisions involving children” (archive).
- 2023-04-29: @lovingcardinal claims that “Ohio is at the beginning the detransitioner tsunami” and that “Cinci Children’s grooms kids into believing this is normal” (archive).
- 2023-05-19: @lovingcardinal describes trans men and transmasculine people as “confused future hysterectomy customers” with “poisoned uteruses” (archive).
- 2023-05-23: @lovingcardinal claims that “A study consists of being HIGH GRADE EVIDENCE” (archive).
- 2023-05-25: @lovingcardinal describes a trans woman physician as an “obvious pedophile[]” (archive).
- 2023-05-25: @lovingcardinal claims that use of estrogen by a trans woman “resulted in a suicide”, despite the lack of high-quality evidence showing any such causation (archive). She later accused her parents of “abuse” for not misgendering their deceased daughter (archive).
- 2023-05-25: @lovingcardinal calls a gender-affirming surgeon “a drunk” (archive).
- 2023-05-30: @lovingcardinal describes Elliot Page and his partner as “broken women” (archive).
Maybe someday these broken women will love themselves. Why hide this same sex attraction? We live in a regressive world. Women can do anything, except change sex.
- 2023-05-30: @lovingcardinal claims the trans community “encourage estrangement” (archive).
- 2023-06-03: @lovingcardinal suggests “transgender medicine is the opioid crisis of young troubled teens” (archive).
- 2023-06-14: Ohio HB 68, the 2023 trans youth care ban that was passed into law in January 24 over Gov. DeWine’s veto, has its fourth hearing in the House Public Health Policy Committee. Stephen Beck, appearing as an “interested party”, was allowed to testify for over 35 minutes (beginning at 0:59:00).
- 2023-06-16: @lovingcardinal states “the transitioning of children reflects the Nazi movement” and “#trans = #childsacrifice” (archive).
- 2023-06-16: @lovingcardinal claims “I am not afraid of ‘trans people’ and have never justified violence against anyone” (archive).
- 2023-07-14: @lovingcardinal describes nonbinary runners competing in a nonbinary category as “confused mediocre males” (archive).
- 2023-10-11: @lovingcardinal claims abortion is “dangerous for women” (archive).
- 2023-10-12: @lovingcardinal argues against legal abortion, claiming that “male dems want to continue to abuse women with unprotected sex so they can get an abortion and not take any responsibility” (archive).
- 2023-11-15: The Substack account “Not a chicken” (@notachicken) posts a note (archive):
Truly sad that Netflix is complicit in promoting the transgender cult. In fact, by saying this, I might get kicked off the forum as some socialist tranny is probably in charge of policing it.
- 2023-11-28: Ohio HB 68 has its second hearing in the Senate Government Oversight Committee. Cardinal Support Network submits written testimony as a PDF with metadata listing the author as “Sharon Beck”.
- 2023-12-14: “Maria Polaris” appears on an episode of the Sacred Heart Radio show “Driving Home the Faith”.
2024
- 2024-01-02: @lovingcardinal tweets a local URL to a file on her computer, “file:///C:/Users/sharo/Downloads/HB68_Davis2_Opponent.pdf”, with “sharo” possibly indicating “Sharon” (archive).
- 2024-01-02: @lovingcardinal claims that the Cincinnati organization Transform “gives out clothes to groom gender confused kids” (archive).
- 2024-01-10: @lovingcardinal states she is “a parent of a child who was harmed by a gender clinic” (archive).
- 2024-01-10: @lovingcardinal claims gender clinicians “are true believers in the fantasy trans cult and willing to hurt kids to prove it” (archive).
- 2024-01-10: @lovingcardinal states that she “testified in person to protect girls and have had a target on my back ever since” (archive).
- 2024-01-26: In a Twitter space with Rep. Gary Click (OH), Click discusses strategy for passing adult trans care bans and regulations with legislators from Ohio and Michigan as well as anti-trans detransitioner Prisha Mosley, who previously testified in support of Florida’s trans youth care ban. During the call, Click discusses meeting with Stephen Beck of SEGM and Sharon Beck of Cardinal Support Network.